The essential elements of dignity are as follows.
1. Don’t Take the Bait: Don’t let the bad behavior of others determine your own.
2. Don’t get caught in the temptation to save face.
3. Don’t shirk responsibility when you have violated the dignity of others.
4. Don’t be lured by false dignity: Beware of the desire for external recognition of your dignity in the form of approval and praise.
5. Don’t be lured by false security. Don’t let your need for connection compromise your dignity.
6. Don’t just sit there and take it! Don’t allow someone to violate your dignity without saying something.
7. Don’t assume you are the innocent victim in a troubled relationship: Open yourself to the idea that you might be contributing to the problem.
8. Don’t resist feedback from others. We often don’t know what we don’t know.
9. Don’t blame and shame others to deflect your guilt.
10. Don’t be lured by false intimacy. Beware of the tendency to connect with others by gossiping about someone else. (p.162)